The Cleanse Diet with a twist

xyngLast Friday night, my wife and I (at her urging) decided to start an eight (yes count them - 8) day cleanse, which for those of you who are not aware of this (click here) and realize that you are starving yourself for a week.  Don't take that the wrong way, there is protein shakes, protein snacks and vitamins and pills and so on, but for the most part you are lacking fruit, grains, cabs, coffee and fill in your blank.  So here is where I am at so far (diet ends Saturday - woo hoo):Day 1, 2, 4, 6 and 8:  Lean Smoothie (their product), with vitamins and their global blend; Morning Snack (protein with green veggies); Lunch: Lean Smoothie w/vitamins; Afternoon Snack (protein with green veggies) with vitamins and mix; Dinner:  Lean Smoothie w/vitamins and accelerate;  Before Bed:  Tea with two pills (called the "Flush")

spiritual-CleansingDay 3, 5 and 7:  Wake up and drink 8 oz water; Breakfast:  Lean Smoothie w/vitamins and accelerator; Morning Snack:  Protein Meal w/Green Veggies and vitamins; Lunch:  Protein Meal with whole grains + vitamins; Afternoon Snack:  ALmonds, Peanuts/Sunflower Seeds (raw & unsalted); Dinner Take 2 Cheat pills with Protein Meal + Green Veggies  Bedtime:  Hot Green Tea with 2 pills

Spiritual Cleanse was as follows:

Day 1, 2, 4, 6 and 8:  Read the word everyday; pray for those who need prayer and for those who afflict me; use teachable moments for my kids

Day 3, 5 and 7:  Meditate on what is going in (mentally, physically and emotionally) and reflect on what is coming out (heart, soul, body, mind and strength)

Scripture used:JamesGalatiansI, II and II John

Psalms

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I am on Day 6 and after surviving Sunday with great food temptations I have moved to a place of shear gratitude in the sense of how thankful I am for the life that God has given me.  This isn't about prosperity of what he's given me or health that is in this season of my/our lives; nor is it about just the good in my life - because - if we are all honest:  This world isn't easy.  This world (for those who follow Jesus) is promised to bring us trials and tribulations - and it has.  What I realize is that whatever life brings me (he gives and takes away) I will be singing blessed be His name.

I still have Friday and Saturday to finish this, but I will write more on this topic.

Have any of you done either?

Blessings,

D

 

Worry & Procrastination....

prorastinationWe apologize that we haven't updated LD in a while, but as always the case out with the old and in with the New Year has LegacyDads really busy.  Between our kids, our ministries and our work not to mention all the demands of being husband/dad, you can all probably relate to this.  Somehow, I had the grand illusion that as our kids got older the less we would be required to do - boy do I have that wrong.Which leads me to this post:  Worry & Procastination

I was reading this article about the tops sins of men (particularly in America) and was struck that the Barna Suvery did not put the "Big Ones" in the top 2 slots, rather, they put Worry and Procastination (aka laziness and idleness and slothfulness) on the top two slots.   When I really ponder to think on this, I think that for men in America that is really true.  Let's be honest, if we truly took stock of our lives (in other words pick yours:  Your bills/filing, your investments, your Garage, your closet, your computer, your to-do lists, your empty promises to your wife and kids that begin with either, "okay", "in a minute" or "i will get to that next week") if these fill in your blanks then you have related to me - if we didn't cover them then please comment on this so I can add that to my likely list.

worry plaqueSeriously, since my mom died over 2 years ago, I have seen my dad (who could do it all - litterally) take a back seat to everything and let the world pass him by.  This means that I have the estate to manage, the propterty that is unsold to manage and the tax and bills and so on that go with it.  On top of that add to my daily jaunts in life:  God, Family, Work and every day life and you can hopefully empathize with me on this subject.   Life is hard enough, especially in a world that seems to take unbiblical paths in managing debt - you cannot spend your way out of a crisis without consequence.   My wife and I are working on some house projects which leads to me to realize that some times we just have too much stuff - what are we teaching our kids.  The name of this game in 2014 is back to the basics - I mean yes, I have my passions and my hobbies and my media tablets that assist in this process, but as for my wife and I and our family - we will be taking a much more biblical pace to 2014.

My role as a husband and father is supposed to be the spiritual leader of my household.  To raise and train up our children to love the Lord with all the heart, strength soul and mind.  To fear him who can sepearate bone from marrow.  To love him with reckless abandon.  To have a real and loving relationship with Jesus Christ and to share the Gospel to our world the best that we can (sometimes just letting our actions and service do the talking as much as we can).  The second is to teach them to be independent and confident.  Not to be insecure and not to worry and stress out about things that we can never control and/or change the outcome.  We need to teach them to use their gifts and stewardship of time talent and treasure to serve God's Kingdom and not our own.  This is a task that does not sleep, does not wait and has a limited time before they are no longer under our tutilege.  All of this being sais is that there will be a reckoning in each and everyone of our lives - the Judgement Seat of Christ.  For those of us who call him Savior and are written in the Lambs Book of Life - we will be robed in white and we will be judged on what we did for God through His Son and Spirit to further his kingdom.

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Worry - why?  What does it profit me to gain the whole world and lose my own soul.  Why worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow may never come.

 

 

Procrastinate - well that is my cross to bear these next few months - time to step it up!  After all, Pastor Matt Chandler said at #ActLikeMen, that a bored man in the house is a very dangerous thing - who has time to be bored (I am usually exhausted by bedtime).  Instead, I am making an effort to live the life that I want to teach my children:I will be accountable to God with my talent, with my time and with my treasure:

  • God comes first
  • My quiet time and daily reading comes second
  • I will serve my wife and kids to the best of my abillity - before this I will let go and let God have them (he can take care of things much better than I can!)
  • I will listen for his prompting and leading
  • I will not worry (when I do - I have accountability that will shred that from me)
  • I will not procrastinate any more (Lord - hear this prayer!)

What are some of yours?

Blessings,

Dante

 

How will you measure your life...

dietoselfThis past week I received an email from someone who I respect very much in the work force and who plays a good mentor in a lot of young peoples lives.   There is an article that was sent in an email about how those of us that can have input in the way we do life could make a difference in other peoples lives.   If you click on this link:  How will you measure your life, then you can read the article in its entirety.   This article prompted me to make this our topic this weekend in our men's group this Saturday morning.  Click on this for the Power Point that I will be presenting:  How will you measure your lifeAs we begin 2014, I wanted to challenge each of us with a few thoughts in life - in the way that we do every day.  Whatever your background, whatever gifts, your talents and/or your treasure, what mark you leave in this life depends on how you define all of your efforts with Jesus Christ.  Whether you are rich, poor, well fed or hungry.  Whether you are blessed in good health or suffering in trial and tribulation.  Whether you are lonely or questioning why God has you were you are at - there is only one choice to make:  How will you measure your life?  How will you define who you are?  What legacy will you leave for those who come behind you?

Legacy Dad is more than just about Lance and I and our writings - it is deeper than that.  It is about God's truth in our lives.  It is about making a difference as husbands, fathers, mentors, friends and disciples of Christ.  What mark will you leave?  How will people remember you?  What you do everyday - is that making a difference for your life or for God's Kingdom?

Here are some challenges for 2014:

  • Be humble in all circumstances
  • Love and live life like it could be your last day on earth
  •  Know your priorities
  • Ask this question - "what matters most in my life...?
  • Be responsible for your personal walk (in life, in discipleship, in spiritual growth and so on)
  • Put accountability in your life
  • Be accountable (no matter what)
  • Pray, read God's word and listen for at least an hour a day (morning or noon or night - whatever works)
  • See where God takes you in 2014

In all you do - Coram Deo!

Blessings,

Dante

 

 

 

Reflecting on end of last year’s Bucket List

2013 to 2014Last year, on Saturday 12-29-12 I entered the following bucket list post for my look into 2013.  Here is what I said:James 4:13-16 ESV “Come now, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go into such and such a town and spend a year there and trade and make a profit”— yet you do not know what tomorrow will bring. What is your life? For you are a mist that appears for a little time and then vanishes. Instead you ought to say, “If the Lord wills, we will live and do this or that.” As it is, you boast in your arrogance. All such boasting is evil.”

Every one of us will have an appointed time to die and after that we will all face judgement from our Lord Jesus Christ.  This very fact got me thinking about a bucket list for 2013.  It is not so much as planning to die, but things that I really want to focus on in the next 12 months to come.  Things that I think are seriously important:

My Bucket List for 2013:

1.       Read thru the Bible in a year (I am currently 2 months behind, but getting closer)

2.       Lead 12 people to Christ (at least one a month) (I know of 4 for sure and not sure how many more this side of heaven)

3.       Love my wife and family more and serve them more – (Check)

4.       Buy a homeless person dinner  (FAIL, however, we did support a family that was in need during the holidays)

5.       Spend more time teaching, loving, training and hanging with my wife and three kids (Check)

6.       Mentoring (Check and triple check)

7.       Take random road “day trips” with my family (Check)

8.       Train and run for my third marathon (Check)

9.       Eat better, exercise more and make the wise choices (I will give myself a C+, without the Marathon it would have been a “C-“)

10.     Read more with my wife (give myself a C+)

11.     Grow deeper friendships (feeling blessed with this thanks to Men of Faith and Lance, of course)

12.     Apply biblical truth every day to my life, my wife’s life and my children’s life (more family devotions). (One of my accountability partners put the rubber to the road on this one with me by challenging to hold my integrity to my every day life application – thus fulfilling this challenge)

What are some of yours?

Blessings in 2013,

Dante

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Happy New Year,

Dante, Lance & Gary!!!

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The hardest part about this website is that Lance and I (and Gary who is now home with Jesus) have to look at this website as a constant reminder of accountability.  That is, our wives, friends, and family are reading this.  They see us daily and can call us out on this and they can even challenge us to live lives more worthy and to be even more accountable in life.

 

 

 

 

So as 2013 comes to a close, I have a few challenges for you:

  • The demands of life are inescapable, therefore, measure your time more carefully and prioritize what’s most important:  God, Family, Church, Work and Community
  • The pressures of life are, at times, overwhelming, therefore, measure your friendships and accountability more closely (if people were to look at your life and social calendar and check book on a jumbo screen at your most favorite sporting event and or Times Square – would they say that God matters most?  That Jesus shines through?  That the Holy Spirit guides us each day?
  • The family unit is exhausting (a lot of the time), therefore, live like it is your last day, love like it is your last day and serve like you love Jesus on your last day
  • Maybe you are divorced, single and/or widowed, therefore, stop trying to serve self (what’s in it for me) and allow God to fill those places by serving His will and His Kingdom and His plans for your life (He does have plans for each of us)
  • Maybe you are married and embittered or frustrated or in a rut that you cannot get out of (like a dog chasing its tail), therefore, turn to God’s will for your life.  Center your life, your marriage, your job your everything-ness on Jesus Christ.  Make him your center point and see what 2014 brings you.
  • __________________________________, therefore, ________________________________ (fill in some of yours)

 

I will leave you with this to begin 2014 with:

Lamentations 3  (ESV) Great Is Your Faithfulness

lamentations3 I am the man who has seen affliction     under the rod of his wrath; he has driven and brought me     into darkness without any light; surely against me he turns his hand     again and again the whole day long. He has made my flesh and my skin waste away;     he has broken my bones; he has besieged and enveloped me     with bitterness and tribulation; he has made me dwell in darkness     like the dead of long ago. He has walled me about so that I cannot escape;     he has made my chains heavy; though I call and cry for help,     he shuts out my prayer; he has blocked my ways with blocks of stones;     he has made my paths crooked. 10 He is a bear lying in wait for me,     a lion in hiding; 11 he turned aside my steps and tore me to pieces;     he has made me desolate; 12 he bent his bow and set me     as a target for his arrow. 13 He drove into my kidneys     the arrows of his quiver; 14 I have become the laughingstock of all peoples,     the object of their  taunts all day long. 15 He has filled me with bitterness;     he has sated me with wormwood.  16 He has made my teeth grind on gravel,     and made me cower in ashes; 17 my soul is bereft of peace;     I have forgotten what happiness[a] is; 18 so I say, “My endurance has perished;     so has my hope from the Lord.” 19 Remember my affliction and my wanderings,     the wormwood and the gall! 20 My soul continually remembers it     and is bowed down within me. 21 But this I call to mind,     and therefore I have hope: 22 The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases;[b]     his mercies never come to an end; 23 they are new every morning;     great is your faithfulness. 24 “The Lord is my portion,” says my soul,     “therefore I will hope in him.” 25 The Lord is good to those who wait for him,     to the soul who seeks him. 26 It is good that one should wait quietly     for the salvation of the Lord. 27 It is good for a man that he bear     the yoke in his youth. 28 Let him sit alone in silence     when it is laid on him; 29 let him put his mouth in the dust—     there may yet be hope; 30 let him give his cheek to the one who strikes,     and let him be filled with insults. 31 For the Lord will not     cast off forever, 32 but, though he cause grief, he will have compassion     according to the abundance of his steadfast love; 33 for he does not afflict from his heart     or grieve the children of men.

Freedom of Speech or From Speech....?

The Declaration of Independence: A Transcription


IN CONGRESS, July 4, 1776.

The unanimous Declaration of the thirteen united States of America,

declaration_of_independence_stone_630When in the Course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bands which have connected them with another, and to assume among the powers of the earth, the separate and equal station to which the Laws of Nature and of Nature's God entitle them, a decent respect to the opinions of mankind requires that they should declare the causes which impel them to the separation.

We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.--That to secure these rights, Governments are instituted among Men, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed, --That whenever any Form of Government becomes destructive of these ends, it is the Right of the People to alter or to abolish it, and to institute new Government, laying its foundation on such principles and organizing its powers in such form, as to them shall seem most likely to effect their Safety and Happiness. Prudence, indeed, will dictate that Governments long-established should not be changed for light and transient causes; and accordingly all experience hath shewn, that mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable, than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed. But when a long train of abuses and usurpations, pursuing invariably the same Object evinces a design to reduce them under absolute Despotism, it is their right, it is their duty, to throw off such Government, and to provide new Guards for their future security...

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The First Amendment

Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.

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The Fifty States Reference God in their Constitutions-Truth! 

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Lately, especially in the media and social networks, I feel that a person is truly not afforded his or her constitutional rights of freedom.  Too often then not a person is dragged through the mud both in public and through the media without a fair shake.  For instance, Phil Robertson, of the Duck Dynasty, has been removed from the successful television show - Duck Dynasty.  He was asked for his views on sin and here is what he said.  According to an article published in the:

Christian Science Monitor:   'Duck Dynasty' in peril over Phil Robertson suspension. Why did this happen? The family at the center of A&E's 'Duck Dynasty' said they may not be able to go on without clan patriarch Phil Robertson. His remarks on homosexuality illustrate a cultural divide in America.   By Patrik Jonsson, Staff Writer / December 20, 2013

The Christian Science Monitor, Weekly Digital Edition.  In a statement issued late Thursday, the Robertson clan at the center of the show said they may not be able to go on after A&E suspended Phil Robertson for his blunt AS YOU KNOW CINDY, THIS IS MY FAVORITE PIC. THX.scriptural interpretations. “We have had a successful working relationship with A&E, but, as a family, we cannot imagine the show going forward without our patriarch at the helm,” the Robertson family said in a prepared statement. “We are in discussions with A&E to see what that means for the future of Duck Dynasty.” Robertson’s commentary, where he compares homosexuality to sins like “bestiality,” sparked a wildfire debate in the blogosphere about free speech, civil rights, and religious values. The flap also has come to epitomize what some academics have identified as a cultural gulf separating America’s coastal urban power centers and a rural America that remains steeped in hunting, fishing, and churchgoing. “This moment definitely says something about where we are as Americans,” says Rob Weiner, a pop culture expert at Texas Tech University. “For so long … the more traditional sort of down-home Christian good ol’ boy, living off the land, hasn’t been seen. Now that he has, he’s touched a nerve. A lot of people find the show entertaining, but equal numbers of people find it offensive – the killing of animals and things like that.” Gay rights advocates, for one, applauded the decision by A&E to suspend Phil. “What’s clear is that such hateful anti-gay comments are unacceptable to fans, viewers, and networks alike,” said GLAAD spokesperson Wilson Cruz. “By taking quick action and removing Robertson from future filming, A&E has sent a strong message that discrimination is neither a Christian nor an American value.” But the backlash caused its own backlash from Duck Dynasty fans, who asked why, in a country founded on Judeo-Christian precepts, is someone being punished for artfully stating scripture? “We all need to be out there promoting and protecting the heart of America,” said Sarah Palin. “We can do that by showing support for ‘Duck Dynasty.’ ”

Here is one question for you, are the laws in a country promoted by inherent values that are granted to us by God of the universe?  How and where are we given this moral compass to forge laws in our nations?  By what inherent right do we have to force laws on people?  Where, from the age of 3, do we get this sense of right and wrong from?

When was homosexuality illegal in all 50 states?  According to Wikipedia (yes, I just quoted Wikipedia), "Sodomy laws in the United States:  From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia, Sodomy laws in the United States, which outlawed a variety of sexual acts, were historically universal. While they often targeted sexual acts between persons of the same-sex, many statutes employed definitions broad enough to outlaw certain sexual acts between persons of different sexes as well, sometimes even acts between married persons.  Through the 20th century, the gradual liberalization of American sexual morals led to the elimination of sodomy laws in most states. During this time, the Supreme Court upheld the constitutionality of sodomy laws in Bowers v. Hardwick in 1986. However, in 2003 the Supreme Court reversed the decision with Lawrence v. Texas, invalidating sodomy laws in the remaining 14 states (Alabama, Florida, Idaho, Kansas, Louisiana, Michigan, Missouri, Mississippi, North Carolina, Oklahoma, South Carolina, Texas, Utah, and Virginia). Prior to 1962, sodomy was a felony in every state, punished by a lengthy term of imprisonment and/or hard labor. In that year, the Model Penal Code (MPC) — developed by the American Law Institute to promote uniformity among the states as they modernized their statutes."  This isn't conjecture, nor an opinion, but actual laws in the United States of America that were against sodomy.

So this begs the question of our Bill of Rights given to us by our founding fathers:  Why should any citizen of the United States be condemned or shunned for his or her right to freedom of speech?  I will put it this way:  As a consumer and a taxpayer, if there is anything that I do not like then I have choices:  1) I can choose not to endorse that product or politician 2) I can avoid that person or product or go to their competitor which offers a different service or political view 3) I can choose to turn him/her or that show off.  So, in the case of Phil Robertson, if what he says offended any of you - then simply choose not to support their show on A&E.

For me, I think the Book of James 1:19 says it best, "19 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,".  We live in a world that is rapidly changing, but we are not seeing any new themes coming from a worldly perspective.  In the days of the Roman Empire there was a multitude of un-biblical practices around, and throughout generations upon generations sinful behaviors and practices became public norm.  Am I going to become the moral compass for everyone around me - God forbid me!

Here is the truth in all things:  God is Holy!  God is not mocked.  It is appointed for man (and woman) once to die and after this judgement.  We read in Scripture that if you do not know the Lord Jesus Christ as Savior that there is no Salvation for you - there is only the Great White Throne Judgement that does not end well for those without Christ.

For me, if asked a tough or political leaning question - I would be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.  I would rather hope that my light would shine - the light of Jesus Christ in my life.  I would hope that my first response would be to share the gospel of Christ in love (not in condemnation).  Does that mean that I should withhold the truth - absolutely not.  But does that mean that I can cast stones in other peoples lives when I have giant logs sticking out my own eyes - I would hope not.

I am a sinner!  I sin everyday!  I ask for forgiveness from God when I do sin.  Because I believe in the Lord Jesus Christ as my Savior, my sins of the past, the present and in the future - are forgiven once and for all - To God be the Glory for His Son Jesus Christ.

In all that we do as Legacy Dad's - please, pretty please - let your light shine!

Your thoughts?

D

 

Why settle for mediocrity...

As an men's ministry leader, an Elder, I can tell you that I have walked with a lot of men in their walks:  Struggles with personal sin, struggles in their walks, struggles in their prayer life and struggles in their quiet time with God.mediocrity5The one theme that really rubs a chord with me (not anger but in sympathy) is that of men who find themselves in a marriage that is barely on life support or has been dead for several years.

 

 

 

 

 

Common stresses to marriage:

  • Lack of honesty
  • Selfishness
  • Keeping Score
  • Anger
  • Unfaithfulness (this could be physical, emotional and or psychological)
  • Finances
  • Men neglecting their role as Spiritual leaders
  • Lack of support
  • ____________ (fill in your blanks)

Whatever the cause, the effect is unavoidable if we leave it uncured.  For instance, how many of you (guys) if you were concerned about your health or the doctor told you that you had to change something in your life (exercise, diet, proper daily care) wouldn't do that in a heart beat.  For instance, almost 9 years ago I was diagnosed with malignant melanoma.  It was discovered by my nephew on my back.  Left untreated and undiscovered, I would not have been here blogging this entry today.  I changed my lifestyle (sun exposure, skin-care, suntanning lotion and the like).

Almost 5 years ago (and then 4 years ago) I almost lost my wife.  She had some health complications that almost lead her to renal failure - that was an unbelievable time for me and still leaves a lasting impression on my life and on my marriage (a reminder of how important she is to me - to my family and to God).

So then, this begs the question of why do we know so many people who settle for a mediocre marriage?  Through this journey of Legacydad and through my own personal relations, I cannot begin to tell you how many marriages are in trouble - so how can we re-direct this:

  • Before marriage, seek a bible-believing marriage ministry and get some pre-marriage counseling (this will give you the realities in life and some personal experiences of those who traveled these roads before you)
  • In marriage, seek other couples who have strong marriages and healthy boundaries (get accountability in your life and ask your wife to get accountability in her life)
  • Before you deal with your wife's problems (trying to fix her) deal with yours
  • Read these following verses:  Genesis 2:18Ephesians 4:2-3Proverbs 17:141 Peter 3:1-7 and Ephesians 5:22-33.
  • Get involved in a Men's bible study (get accountability)
  • If you are struggling, join a genuine bible based Celebrate Recovery progam (you cannot do this alone)
  • Surrender (if you know Jesus as Savior) then repent and turn and ask for the Holy Spirit's guidance
  • Listen

wedding rings and bible ephesians copyWhat if you took these steps?  What if you actually read your bible daily?  What if you got involved with other men in a bible study and/or a Celebrate Recovery program?  What if your wife noticed these changes and eventually started to deal with her stuff and the two of you took a comatose marriage and turned it into a vibrant Christ-centered marriage?  What would that look like to you?  Would this be above your wildest dreams?

If you put God first in your life, He can do all things!  Believe in Him, after all, Series_marriage_workshe sent his only Son to die for our sins and to take our sins away (from the past, present and future).

Don't settle, Don't give-up, trust and obey for there is no other way!

Blessings,

Dante

 

 

The Pinterest Generation

pinterestAs my wife and I are working diligently after we put the kids to bed, after we worked on Christmas gift-wrapping and catching up on filing and the whole lot, I decided to ask my wife some questions:  What do you think women struggle must with.  The answer(s) surprised me, well, not really.  But what it did give me was some deeper insight into the everyday lives of our wives and mothers of our children.  Here it goes:

  • You can never get it done
  • You can never have the time to give your all to everything
  • You can never do enough
  • True friendships can be difficult
  • Feeling adequate enough
  • Never have time for yourself
  • Constant worry about not screwing up with our kids
  • Comparison - (we live in a Pinterest generation)

I want to start this post out on the last one - the Pinterest Generation.  When we think about it, this does not just apply to our wives (the mothers of our children) this really applies to all of us - we, even in our best intentions, still find ourselves comparing each other.  The Pinterest generation finds us comparing each other in how we do everything and some doing it better and better and more and more and faster and faster.  Let me start by saying that there is nothing wrong with Pinterest, Facebook, Social Media in general and Media in general.  As long as we keep our priorities straight and do these things in moderation - meaning, we don't make them our gods.  That being said, how do we survive in a world that continues to do it better and better and more and more and faster and faster - how can we keep up?  How can we cope?  Oh my goodness, I am getting stressed and worked up just thinking about all these things.

First of all, if you are a spouse and a parent like me, then you realize that about 9 out of 10 times you are exhausted.  You are, to say the least, fatigued.  So how do we get our priorities straight?  How can we even remotely find biblical contentment?  How can we let go and let God drive our lives daily:

  1. Let's start with prayer - "not my will be done, Lord, YOUR WILL BE DONE....
  2. Have a safe, non-judge-mental (guys - this doesn't mean we try and fix it during the talk) conversation with our spouse.  This means raw honesty, success and failures, short-comings and where are we going with this tomorrow, next week, 1 year, 5 years...
  3. Pray some more
  4. Have an honest talk with our accountability partners (for me, this is with my men of faith (men's group), my accountability partners (Bob, Charlie, Dave, Bob and Jim) - be honest with our short-comings and what we need to be accountable with (things we need to work on...).  For women, this means your ladies, women's group, small group (ladies)...etc.,
  5. If we don't have those relationships - pray for them
  6. Read Scripture daily - meditate, prayer time, quiet time to listen for God's voice in our daily lives
  7. Pray some more
  8. Stop comparing - God made us!  We are fearfully and wonderfully made - he didn't make any mistakes when he created us
  9. Make healthy choices - sleep, diet, exercise, mental exercise (read), less media inputs (less idols) and more God-time
  10. Journal

The hardest part about life is trying to be someone or something that you aren't.  Simply said, we have to learn our strengths and our weaknesses and to be real with them.  For instance, when you look at community (church, social clubs, events and so on) you see a few people doing so much that they are effectively becoming ineffective.  I don't want you to take that wrong - God looks at our heart.  I love when people serve!  That is a call to being a disciple of Christ.  What I mean is this:  What if, instead of trying to do everything and just being okay or above average on all the things we try to do, we try to learn our gift set (spiritual gifts) and use those in the best and most efficient way to give to God out of the thankfulness of our heart for all he has done for us...

What if we learned what God means by being biblically content:  Philippians 4:11-13; 1 Timothy 6: 6-11.

  • With God, we can do all things
  • Without God, these things are all fruitless
  • With God, we can take his paths that He will make straight
  • Without God's direction we can face ruin and calamity
  • With God, we can let him love, protect and care and raise our children
  • Without God, we will see the fruit of our labor in our children (will they take our faith seriously without God
  • With God, we can rest in Him because his yoke is easy
  • Without God we can count on burning out

In all things, seek His Will and His way through his Word (Jesus Christ).  I like it said like this:

Colossians 3:17

English Standard Version (ESV)

17 And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.

More to say, more to do, and more to lean on God and not my own understanding.

Your thoughts?

Dante