We continue our discussion on True Confidence (Part One, Part Two, Part Three, Part Four)
False Measures of Confidence.
3. Achievements
Another false measure of confidence is our accomplishments. As a young child I often thought that my ticket to Heaven was wrapped up in my works on earth, my good deeds or the things I accomplished in my life.
Some of us still believe this?
So the trap this sets is that we feel we can never do enough and we always have to do more.
This is ingrained in us from the time we are children:
In most schools today, children are rewarded and told they are special if they receive straight A's.
If you score the most points in the game, you get your name in the local paper.
Later in life, if we have the right letters behind our name, we are successful.
If we have the right office and job title, we are important.
So as a result of this, we often tie our value by what we do and achieve. We see this in professional athletes and business people who don't want to retire because their self worth is wrapped up in their accomplishments.
Texas Monthly did an interview with legendary quarterback Troy Aikman after he won his first Super Bowl and he said that after the game, he didn't go out an party with the team instead he stayed in his hotel room and reflected. He said that his whole life he was preparing for this moment and he thought all his problems would be solved once he won the Super Bowl. Now in his hotel room his was scared and asked himself "What Now?"
Jeremiah 9:23
"This is what the LORD says: Let not the wise man boast of his wisdom or the strong man boast of his strength or the rich man boast of his riches, but let him who boasts boast about this:that he understands and knows me, that I am the LORD, who exercises kindness, justice and righteousness on earth, for in these I delight, declares the LORD."
The reason why this is so toxic is because this attitude will lead us to compare ourselves to others and compared to other people, someone will always have more, or do it better than us. We compare ourselves to our personal best, not to others.
In Psalm 73, David said "I nearly lost my confidence, my faith was almost gone because I was jealous..."
Wrapping this topic up, we must understand that we will be disappointed when we look to ourselves for help. Every year, thousands of self-help books are published and if we could do it on our own, we could simply go down to a local bookstore, read a few books and solve all our problems in life.
I think we all know that this doesn't work. Which we lead us to the final post on this topic and why we need God.