#1 LOVE YOUR WIFE (NO MATTER HOW BIG SHE GETS) AND IF SHE ASKS IF SHE LOOKS FAT – SAY “NO”!!!#2 TALK/SING TO THE BABY WHILE TOUCHING YOUR WIFE’S BELLY
THIS HAS PROVEN TO ME THAT LIFE BEGINS AT CONCEPTION. I MADE UP SONGS FOR ALL 3 KIDS AND WHEN THEY WERE INCONSOLABLE AFTER BIRTH I WOULD SING THESE SONGS TO THEM AND THEY WOULD IMMEDIATELY CALM DOWN
#3 TAKE RESPONSIBILITY AS PROPHET, PRIEST AND KING – SHOW YOUR WIFE (THE NEW MOTHER) THAT YOU WILL PROVIDE AND BE THERE WHEN SHE IS INSECURE. PROVE TO HER THAT YOU CAN LISTEN, YOU CAN CARE, AND WHEN THINGS GET TOUGH, SHE CAN LEAN ON YOU
#4 DON’T STOP DATING YOUR WIFE.
AFTER SHE GIVES BIRTH AND HEALS TAKE HER OUT AND GIVE HER LOVE AND ATTENTION. BE ATTENTIVE TO HER NEEDS AND DESIRES.
#5 ASK FOR BABY TIME ALONE
THERE WILL COME A TIME WHEN YOUR WIFE LOOKS LIKE SHE IS GOING TO EXPLODE (OVERSTRESSED, OVERTIRED, AND NERVES FRIED). TELL HER THAT YOU WANT ALONE TIME WITH THE CHILD AND MAKE HER LEAVE THE HOUSE (TELL HER TO GO SHOPPING, DO HER NAILS, READ A BOOK, TAKE A BATH) AND TAKE CARE OF THE CHILD. THIS WILL CREATE A HEALTHY BOND BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR CHILD AND STRENGTHEN THE BOND BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR WIFE. WHEN SHE RETURNS YOU WILL SEE THAT “CRAZY LOOK” VANQUISHED.
#6 GIVE HER TIME
SHE JUST GAVE BIRTH TO A CHILD OF YOURS. DON’T BE SELFISH AND TELL HER WHAT ABOUT MY NEEDS. FILL HER NEEDS. LOVE ON HER (WITHOUT EXPECTING BENEFITS). MASSAGE HER FEET, HER BACK AND PAMPER HER. WHEN HER BODY IS READY – SHE WILL LET YOU KNOW.
#7 BE A DAD, A FATHER AND A PARENT – NOT A BABYSITTER.
GOD HAS BLESSED YOU AND YOUR WIFE WITH A CHILD (NOT EVERYONE HAS THAT BLESSING). BE ATTENTIVE. BE A NURTURER. READ BOOKS ON DAD (AN EXCELLENT BOOK IS BY DEREK PRINCE, “HUSBAND & FATHERS). MAN UP!
#8 YOUR WIFE IS NOW CARRYING AND FEEDING TWO. HER HORMONES ARE ON OVERLOAD. ONE DAY SHE WILL BE GLEEING AND HAPPY AND OVER EMOTIONAL AND THE NEXT DAY SHE WILL LOOK AT YOU LIKE SHE WANTS TO HIT YOU WITH A FRYING PAN ASKING WHY YOU DID THIS TO HER BODY. BE STRONG AND COURAGOUS. BE CONFIDENT IN YOUR MANHOOD AND DON’T TAKE HER PERSONAL – SHE DOESN’T KNOW WHAT SHE MEANS!
#9 DON’T FORGET #1 AND #8 AND START TO HELP AROUND THE HOUSE. VACCUM, DISHES, CLEANUP AND FINISH (HELP AND PAINT AND DECORATE THE NEW BABY’S ROOM.
#10 REALIZE WHAT GOD EXPECTS OF FAMILY. READ EPHESIANS 5, DEUTERONOMY 6 AND COLOSSIANS 3 AND ROMANS 12….WHEN IN DOUBT, PRAY! ALWAYS PRAY AND AS A REMINDER VERSE READ 1 PETER 3:7.
WHAT ARE YOUR TOP 10?
Dante